We discussed this at length with our surrogate and we came up with a three qualities that may help you on your journey.
1. A strong advocate: It’s important that your surrogate will advocate not only for herself, but for her IPs and your child. At the hospital (and often in doctor’s appointments), the surrogate will be the one who is asked to make many decisions and it’s critical that she has a strong voice throughout the pregnancy and birth.
2. A good communicator: This journey is not for the faint-of-heart. You will want a surrogate who communicates with you in ways that you’re comfortable with (and ways she’s comfortable with). Whether it's via text message, phone calls, video chats or in-person visits, you want to be communicating clearly throughout the surrogacy.
3. Honest. A great surrogate will be up front and honest with her IPs during the process. IPs should seek a surrogate who clearly states her expectations and needs as well as shares information with you openly.